We women are very expressive and are very sensitive too. What makes us show our emotions( specially the tears) even when we are not supposed to? Do we lack the Emotional Intelligence? Is it the way we are brought up?? Is it something related to the hormones? We cry when someone leaves us, we cry when we aren’t happy or someone with us is unhappy, we cry when we watch an emotional scene in a movie, we cry when we see someone is dying, we cry when nothing is good in our life or everything is good I our life, sometimes we cry for no reason.
After India lost to Australia in the semi finals it was the first time I saw captain cool, Mahendra Singh Dhoni had tears in his eyes. That made me realise even men cry. However, the fact still remains very few men are sensitive( as I already know my dad was very sensitive). As an ardent Dhoni fan I had his pic and status on my Whatsapp. One of my friend noticed the status and was quick to say that some men are sensitive. This made me ask him, if that’s the case why men are scared of showing the emotions. To this he added it’s not about being scared, however, it doesn’t come naturally to them.
Then my sub conscience kept me asking this, Do men have emotions?? If they have emotions, which they should have as normal human beings then why do they hide it? Does that. mean men aren’t expressive? May be men have high emotional intelligence!! However, if it were so then it should also apply to other emotions such as anger, jealousy.
May be it’s the way men are brought up to be strong both mentally and physically. When some one is strong, that person allowed to show the emotions, isn’t it? That’s the thing that is being impregnated in their minds. This thing has to change and may take ages before it does….
“If you hold back on the emotions — if you don’t allow yourself to go all the way through them — you can never get to being detached, you’re too busy being afraid. You’re afraid of the pain, you’re afraid of the grief. You’re afraid of the vulnerability that loving entails. But by throwing yourself into these emotions, by allowing yourself to dive in, all the way, over your heard even, you experience them fully and completely.”
― Mitch Albom, Tuesdays with Morrie